Breaking Up Advice for Healing

Breaking Up AdviceBreak ups can be extremely painful and emotionally intense times in our lives.  Here is a little breaking up advice that I’ve learned over the years that will make things a little easier whether you’ve decided to move on or still want to make things right with your ex and give the relationship a second chance.

What You Should Do If You Got Dumped

First, I don’t care what happened between you, all relationships end because one or both partners need space away from the relationship.  This time is used to explore many things.  It could be trying life as a single person, trying a new relationship, reevaluating your life and what your are doing with it.  It could be any number of things.  But if your partner dumped you, then the reason is because they just want to step away from the relationship and see what things are like.

My breaking up advice for people that got dumped is to give your partner this space that they are seeking.  If you constantly hassle them about getting back together or begging them for their forgiveness, you will just push them further away.  You see, they want space and as long as you keep calling them, they will feel that they don’t have this space and pull back even further.  If you have any interested in maintaining contact with your ex as either friends or as a way to potentially get back together, give them the space they want.  If you can understand this little bit of breaking up advice, then the everything else should be a cinch.

Taking about two weeks to a month to just stop contacting your ex is the breaking up advice I usually give my friends when they first hear about the breakup.  This is the hardest part.  It will almost seem like torture to keep yourself from calling your ex or e-mailing him.

This is good for your ex because it gives him a chance to miss you.  While you are giving him that space that he wants so much, he will undoubtedly be thinking of you.  He’ll remember all your inside jokes and he’ll see all sorts of things that remind him of you and all the good times you’ve shared.  You know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

This “no contact” time is also good for you too.  It gives you a chance to work through all those messy emotions that come with a fresh break up without having to share them with your ex.  It also gives you time to decide if you really want to salvage the relationship as well.  Spending time alone will allow you to experience new things and meet new people.  You may find that you become a better person when you are not in that relationship.

You might even find that your ex reaches out to contact you during this time.  This can seem like a miracle if everything else you’ve tried has only pushed him away from you.

So, if you’ve found yourself dumped take my breaking up advice and take a few weeks to just not contact your ex at all.  I can guarantee you it will be torture, but it will only improve things across the board.

What You Should Do If You Got Dumped

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